How to Confront a Cheater: 14 Steps (with Pictures)

Finding out that your partner has cheated on you is incredibly difficult. But before you confront them, think about your goals. For example, are you interested in trying to work things out, or do you want to end the relationship? Write down your thoughts so you have some idea ahead of time of what you want to say. They might try to deny what happened, so make sure you have evidence, such as texts or emails between them and the other person. Set up a time when you can talk without being interrupted, and calmly tell them what’s on your mind. Explain how you feel instead of blaming or attacking your partner for what happened. That way, they’ll be more likely to open up instead of getting angry or defensive. If you want to stay in the relationship, focus on addressing the underlying causes of the affair so you can work through those issues together. To learn how to decide if couples therapy is the right step for you, keep reading!